It was SO easy and I would definitely make it again if I could figure it out. I wish I knew what I needed to add/omit/tweak to get it right for us. My son, who literally eats everything and loves PF Chang’s lettuce wraps, told me very politely that he didn’t care for it and asked for something else.

I added a bit more vinegar, soy sauce, and some brown sugar (I remember using this in a very time consuming lettuce wraps recipe years ago), but all I could really taste was the Hosin sauce, which is a bitter taste by itself. There was just something missing that I couldn’t put my finger on which makes it really hard to tweak. You do not want to miss this empowering, encouraging, and practical episode with Valorie.Unfortunately it was a no for us. Not only does she examine the difference between authentic and false guilt, she also offers a simple, four step tool to assess and free ourselves from false guilt! I won’t spoil it all here, but you can bet at the heartbeat of the process is self-awareness and self-compassion. **Hear more on these concepts at minute 20 “Guilt is not always about feeling indebted to another person, often it is about feelings of not measuring up to our own expectations, including expectations we believe God has for us.” Valorie separates guilt into two practical categories for us:Īuthentic guilt à meaning we really did something wrong that we need to own and make retribution for, something she calls a spiritual guide or convictionįalse guilt à meaning we are self-imposing the should’s or shouldn’t have’s on ourselves and letting them steal our joy, something she calls a spiritual detour or false narrative We have found ourselves ransomed by the endless “I should’s” of life, and it’s time we learned which ones are real and which ones we need to let go of so we can take back our joy. We all live with guilt for different reasons – a heavy, shameful, sometimes even crippling guilt that can leave us feeling, exhausted, negative, and stuck. “The catalyst for the book was truly the feeling of this consistent heavy sigh I felt from most of the women in my life – and felt myself,” Valorie says.

The reason she wrote the book? She feels guilty too! Why? Because we all do!! All the time!

Throughout her career she’s focused much of her research and teaching on resilience, happiness, and guiding people into their greater potential and GETTING UNSTUCK! She’s a 13-time author whose work is a combination of research, faith, and personal transparency, and we love her.

Her most recent book, Let Go of the Guilt, gives us practical insight on how to do just that. Well, psychologist, life coach, and best-selling author, Valorie Burton, is here to tell us. “Wow,” you’re probably thinking, “that’s exactly how I’m feeling. I could not think of a better topic to re-start She’s in the City in 2021 than: STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP AND TAKE BACK YOUR JOY!

Valorie burton let go of the guilt